“Hey! When are you having another one?!” Your acquaintance/friend/family member asks you while gesturing to your child. These kind of questions can feel like daggers ( 🗡) to couples struggling with secondary infertility. Secondary Infertility is defined by the inability to conceive or carry a pregnancy to term after having a child. It’s an extremely frustrating diagnosis that takes most couples by surprise. “We got pregnant so easily before! Surely we just need to keep trying!” I hear that all the time…..let’s look at the facts:
If you are over 35 yrs old and have been trying for more than 6 months, it’s time to talk to your healthcare provider (#OBGYN or #Fertilitydoctor). If you are less than 35 and have been trying for a year, it’s time. There are treatments available that can help you add to your precious family. .
Also – YOU ARE NOT ALONE. The National Center for Health Statistics estimates as many as 3 million people struggle with secondary infertility. .
Also – NO you should not “feel guilty” because you already have a baby. NO. STOP THAT. It’s not helping you reach your goals, it’s just holding you back. Wanting to create more precious babies does not make you seem greedy or “less thankful” to have the ones you already have. Some would argue it’s selfless because you desire to give your baby the gift of a sibling. Either way – you do you and stop the guilt. .
Remember – Knowledge is Power 🎉 now you know the facts. Ohhhh and next time you have the opportunity to ask someone “when they are having another one” practice the art of the pause. ❤️